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Feeling disconnected from pleasure, 

your body, or your partner?

 

Everybody and every body, deserves safety, belonging, love, respect and pleasure!

feeling Disconnected from pleasure

 If pain, low desire, or disconnection have crept into your sex life, you’re not broken 

— and you’re not alone. 

I help women (and their partners) reconnect with pleasure as a path to healing, at any age or stage.

I also have a particular passion for helping women reclaim passion, pleasure and play during the menopausal years 

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Can relate to any of these?

Sex has become painful, uncomfortable, or something you quietly avoid
  • Your desire has gone quiet and you don’t know if it’s coming back
  • You feel disconnected from your body, or like it’s changed on you overnight
  • You feel “too old” or “past it” for pleasure, and no one really talks about this
  • Your partner wants to help but doesn’t know how to bring it up
  • You know something needs to shift, but you don’t know where to start
“Everybody, and every body, deserves safety, belonging, love, respect, and pleasure — pleasure is healing.”
Elizabeth Herr

Elizabeth Herr, Sex and Relationship Coach, New Zealand

Hi, I’m Elizabeth

Great relationships and great sex start with safety, self-confidence, playful curiosity, and effective communication. When we feel safe, we have the capacity to play and be curious.

As an embodied sex and relationship coach, I help individuals and couples shed shame, embrace pleasure, and cultivate more connected relationships — no matter your age or stage of life.

My work is trauma-informed and non-clinical. You are the expert of your own lived experience; my role is to hold a safe, compassionate space for you to explore what’s possible.

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How I Can Help

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Menopause & Intimacy

Reconnect with pleasure, desire, and your body through the changes of perimenopause and menopause.

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Couples & Partners

Rebuild connection, communication, and intimacy with the person you love.

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1:1 & Group Coaching

Individual coaching, workshops, retreats, online courses, and celebrant services.

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What Clients Say

“I thought this part of my life was over. I was wrong — and I finally feel like myself again.”

— J., 54

“Elizabeth made it easy to talk about things we’d avoided for years. We’re closer now than we’ve been in a decade.”

— M. & R., together 22 years

“I finally understand that nothing is wrong with me. I just needed the right space to explore.”

— S., 47

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