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Do you crave more pleasure in your sex life?

If pain, low desire, or disconnection have crept into your sex life – If you are feeling disconnected from pleasure, your body or your partner?


you are not broken — and you’re not alone.

Everybody and every body, deserves safety, belonging, love, respect and pleasure!

Pleasure is healing!

Hi, I’m Elizabeth — a certified sex and relationship coach, who has dedicated her life to helping individuals and couples shed shame, embrace pleasure, and cultivate more connected relationships — no matter your age or stage of life.

You are the expert of your body and your own lived experience; my role is to hold a safe, compassionate space for you to explore what’s possible.


Only when we feel safe, can we have the capacity to play and be curious.

Elizabeth Herr Sex and Relationship Coach New Zealand

“The moment you decide your story can change — everything begins to shift.”

How the magic happens.

Discovery Call

We begin with a free 20-minute conversation to understand where you are, where you want to be, and whether we’re the right fit for each other  –  We then agree on a starting point.

Intake history

I’ll send you a confidential intake form to help me get a picture of your journey to date – it will include some sexual history

Sessions, in person or online

We meet regularly – weekly or fortnightly is common – in a confidential, judgement-free space, where you will learn and discover powerful tools to reconnect with pleasure.


You set the pace! This is your process. We go as deep, and as fast or slow, as feels right for you.

Ongoing Support & Growth

Between sessions, you’ll have practices and reflections to explore in your own time.

Pathways to Your Transformation

Every person’s journey is unique. I will meet you exactly where you are — and guide you to where you are meant to be.

01

1:1 Coaching

Individual sessions to explore intimacy, pleasure, body confidence, and relationship patterns — in person or online.

02

Couples Coaching

Work together to rebuild communication, trust, and physical connection at any stage of your relationship.

03

Online Courses

Self-paced learning for those who want to start privately, in their own time.

04

Workshops & Talks

Inspiring keynotes and workshops for companies, retreats, and communities ready to cultivate feminine leadership at scale.

05

Retreats

Immersive, restorative experiences for deeper connection and self-discovery.

06

Luxury Retreats

Immersive multi-day retreats in sacred locations worldwide — for women craving deep rest, renewal, and radical reinvention.

Choose Your Journey

Every program is crafted to deliver the exact support, structure, and transformation you deserve. Choose the path that calls to you most.

Clarity Intensive

Single focused session for immediate breakthroughs.
$297
Most Popular

12-Week Transformation

The complete journey to your full potential.
$3,800

Radiance Collective

Group coaching with a curated circle of women.

$997

/mo

Stories from people who made a change

Real experiences from peiople who chose to show up for themselves, face what was holding them back, and take meaningful steps toward change.

“I thought this part of my life was over. I was wrong — and I finally feel like myself again.”

-J

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“Elizabeth made it easy to talk about things we’d avoided for years. We’re closer now than we’ve been in a decade.”

— M. & R
together 22 years

“I finally understand that nothing is wrong with me. I just needed the right space to explore.”

-S

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“Sofia helped me break through years of self-doubt in just three months. I launched my dream business and finally feel aligned with my purpose.”

Maria Gonzalez
Entrepreneur · Barcelona

“The Radiance Collective changed my life. I found a community of women who truly see me. Sofia’s guidance is nothing short of magical.”

Aisha Patel
Creative Director · Delhi

“Sofia’s retreats are extraordinary. I left feeling like a completely new woman — grounded, clear, and deeply inspired to live my truth.”

Jessica Williams
Therapist · Seoul

Common questions, answered.

Answers to the questions people are often too nervous to ask out loud.
1. Is this therapy?

No. My work is non-clinical and I don’t diagnose. I’m a certified sex and relationship coach, and I often work alongside my clients’ therapists, doctors, or other health professionals rather than replacing them.

Anyone who feels stuck, overwhelmed, or simply disconnected from pleasure, and wants to get back to enjoying amazing sex by being playful and curious.

Yes, completely. What’s shared in our sessions stays between us.

Not at all. Many clients start with 1 on 1 sessions, and some later choose to bring a partner in.

Others come as a couple from the start. We’ll figure out what’s right for you.

That’s completely normal, and very common. Part of my role is to make this easier — we go at your pace, and there’s no pressure to share anything before you’re ready.

Absolutely!. Supporting women (and their partners) through perimenopause and menopause is one of my particular areas of focus and passion. Please see the Menopause & Intimacy Coaching page for more information.

Yes. I work with people of all ages, races, genders, and identities. Everybody, and every body, deserves safety, belonging, and pleasure.

It varies by person and goal. We’ll discuss a realistic plan together after your free discovery call — there’s no set package you’re locked into.

Book a free 20-minute discovery call — no obligation, just a conversation about what’s going on and whether coaching is a good fit.

Resources and Articles

Thoughtful insights, real stories, and practical guidance to help you grow, reflect, and move forward with clarity.

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